For pretty much my entire life, it seems as if my “best-friend” type friendships with women have had an expiration date. Everything would go great for about two years, then we would either just drift apart or something would come up to force us apart. Luckily, in college, it seems as if I have broken that streak, because the women that I consider friends now have been around since freshman year, some of course picked up later along the way.
The friendship that I have had the most regrets about though, would have to be my friendship with my best friend from high school. We had known each other in middle school, but didn’t run with the same crowd back then. My town has two high schools, and we went to the new one that was tiny. When I say tiny, I mean REALLY tiny, I graduated with only 40 people.
My friend and I got together on the first day of high school, and were NEVER apart the whole of freshman year. We did everything together. We took turns spending the night at each other’s houses, we talked on the phone everyday, and we even bought the same outfits. Sometimes we would even borrow each other’s clothes and wear them. She consoled me whenever things didn’t go right with whatever boy I was dating at the time, and after my first real boyfriend and I broke up, she really helped me through it. (Hey, I know it was only high school, but it hurts at any age!) She and her first boyfriend broke up too, and we were two single girls together. (If the song “Single Ladies” had come out then, I guarantee it would have been our anthem.)
Summer came after freshman year, and we stuck together like glue. We “camped” in the backyard (which included not only an in-ground pool and hot tub, but also a pool house with all the ameneties. Some “camping”!) for days on end. We spent days inside in front of the computer or watching movies. I think we watched “Girl, Interrupted” approximately 9,999 times that summer. It was a fun summer.
Then sophomore year rolled around, and it was just like freshman year all over again. We had most of the same classes, and we were never apart. If you saw one of us, you saw the other. People knew we were a matched set. I think it even pissed people off sometimes, they were jealous because they didn’t have their own partner-in-crime. If we got in trouble with teachers, we rarely got punished, because how can you punish two people if you aren’t sure which one did it? I can remember that we often waltzed into this one guy’s class horrifically late, flashed him huge grins, and sat down in our seats (which were, of course, right next to each other). All with out a complaint or comment from the teacher.
Then, along came a boy.
Who messed our friendship up, as teenage boys are wont to do. Don’t get me wrong, we never officially stopped being friends, we still maintained our friendship, but it was different. I think we both felt like we couldn’t quite trust each other after the fact.
After graduation, we ran into each other a few times, but it wasn’t the boisterous greetings you would expect from your best friend, it was light hugging and air kisses, not squeezes and pecks.
I haven’t seen her in over 2 years now, but it’s high time for that to change. We talked on the internet last night for awhile, and exchanged numbers.
I want to meet and catch up. I know it won’t be like old times, but it will still be fun.
If you have a friend you have lost contact with, call them now. Who knows what you could be missing?
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